Some people have been so horribly hurt that even the idea of self-love is anathema, triggers guilt and anger and emotional violence. All I can say is: have faith. All it takes to know you are as good as anyone who has ever walked the earth is to disabuse yourself of the notion that you are above anyone else. Meditate. Journal. Get hugs. Make love. Listen to your heartbeat. Speak with the Ancient Child. Pray. Walk in nature. Re-connect, so that no one and nothing is an intermediary between you and the divine love that was all you ever wanted, the search for which has driven every action in your life.