A reader made a very reasonable statement dealing with negative emotions: that even after you find the answers, you have to keep fighting every day.
I’d say yes…and no. That the SPECIFIC issues you deal with can, once you’ve found the right approach, be subsumed under a larger category of “emotions” that you are guiding into a healthy balance. The specifics don’t need to come up again and again and again.
The trick is that you need a Daily Ritual. It could be meditation, prayer, affirmation, action of some kind, visualizations…there are many approaches. You know that mine is a combination of MOVEMENT, EMOTION, AND FOCUS, designed to check in on ALL your emotions and be sure that they are lining up to support your short and long term outcomes: body, mind, and spirit all moving in the same direction.
So long as you are getting the result you want: living your life on your terms, in your way, in such a manner to be happy, healthy and evolving toward your destiny, contributing to the world in a way that heals and expands your heart.
I DON’T CARE WHAT IT IS. I just want you to have the life you want. But you need to grasp: the work is never complete. In John Steinbeck’s wonderful memoir “Once There Was A War” he described the expression on the face of a naval cook, as if he is just realizing that there is “no way to feed a man once and for all.”
And that’s how you need to be. Every day. EVERY SINGLE DAY, you need to do the things that will protect, heal, and advance your body, mind, and spirit. That ritual, whatever it is, is designed to keep you on the road of integration and progress. The only measure of success is non-dogmatic: DOES IT WORK? Are you able to take another step on the road, with joy and satisfaction? Is fear in its proper place in your life: motivating you to action? Or does it stand between you and your dreams? If so, dig deeper. Talk to people who have succeeded in turning their demons into allies. THEY EXIST. “Put your fear behind you, your love in front of you, and run like hell” is a perfect expression of this.
It’s your life. Own it. Every day that you eat you should exercise, play, and perform a ritual of emotion, action and focus that aligns your emotions so that you are a spiritual being with a logical mind driven by emotions on an animal chassis. Nothing, no reward, is worth selling out your own dreams. There is no safety if you won’t stand up for yourself. Love yourself, protect yourself, like a Mommy Tiger protecting her cub. There is no one else to do it.
Be the hero in the adventure of your lifetime!
(if you would like a copy of the terrific conversation T and I had about fear and writing, drop me an email at: firstname.lastname@example.org. Put NO FEAR in the subject line, and I’ll tell you how you can get it TODAY!)