Staying with the notion of having a perfect week, we stay with the “A” in M.A.G.I.C., which is “action.” What are the actions you have to take this week to make a substantive positive change, and have a positive experience?
What are the “chunks” of those actions you have to take TODAY to move in that direction?
If you lack clarity, and can’t figure out what you need to do, you probably haven’t taken the steps of:
- Clearly deciding upon a goal
- Modeling the behavior and beliefs of others who have accomplished similar goals.
If you know what to do, and break it down into small actions that will get you there, what is the Minimum Effective Action that will keep you moving?
- In writing, that’s a sentence a day.
- In yoga, that might be a single pose
- In emotions, it might be no more than the “Five Minute Miracle” of sixty second breathing breaks.
See how it works? Small actions (five minutes) which begin to de-inhibit the tendency to procrastinate or believe “there is nothing I can do.”
And what if you cannot do even five minutes? One line? One pose? Then you have determined the real problem is NOT lack of time or resources. That is just the excuse your demons use to stop you. The problem is fear. The problem MIGHT be a lack of clarity on “why you want to do it.”
That puts the ball back in your court: the answer then might be to work on your fear response, or come up with more reasons to do that basic five minutes.
IF YOU HAVE THE TIME TO READ THIS, AND THINK YOU DON’T HAVE THE TIME TO TAKE FIVE MINUTES, YOU ARE LYING TO YOURSELF.
Very simple. Musashi’s first principle is: “Do Not Think Dishonestly”. Without honesty, you have an inaccurate map of reality. You then become capable of “running east to see the sunset”–your ego has tricked you into wasting all the time and energy you could have used for transformation.
I am reminded of a friend who was a fabulous, sexy, funny, attractive person, who had never had a successful relationship. When I asked him if he had specificity in what he wanted, he said absolutely. He wanted someone sexy, funny, intelligent. A relationship with passion, honesty and intimacy. On and on.
He’d tried. He really had. And was beginning to believe that relationships were impossible. Was hanging around with other men and women who supported that notion. Challenged my notion that relationships can work.
I pointed out one very simple fact: he had never requested a LASTING relationship. He got everything he asked for…except he had neglected to mention “duration.”
Oops. The expression on his face when he realized that he had screwed himself was priceless. That was over ten years ago. He changed his goal, and within eighteen months had a spanking new relationship that has lasted to this day.
Funny how that works.
He knew WHY he wanted a relationship, but didn’t have the WHAT right. The correct WHAT demanded that he be a slightly different expression of himself, take different daily actions to be the kind of person who can attract and sustain a relationship, which then “radiated” a different message. NOW he begins to attract people on the same wavelength, with different intents.
I remember clearly when a friend told me that I was ready to get married. “How do you know?” I asked. “It’s like a cab with its light on,” she laughed. “Men who are ready for serious relationships just broadcast on a different frequency. That means they’ll attract a different kind of woman, one who is also looking for a serious relationship.”
And not only was she right, but within about eighteen months I was married. And have noticed the same thing in other men and women. Not just about relationships, but about money and obesity and writing careers.
There are people pretending. And there are others who have decided.
The ones who have decided have more reasons to ACT than to NOT ACT.
And they know, because they are taking different actions, and getting different results. It’s painfully simple.
Your actions are driven by your emotions which are responding to the clarity of your goal.
What you do tells the world who you are, and what is valuable to you, and whether you have the emotional permission to have it.
Every day can be a diagnostic. Every step is another chance to ask “who am I?” If you love the answer, keep walking. If you don’t, change your gait, or change your path.
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