I have a friend who is an adopted Apache, raised more or less on the Rez. Very sensitive to those issues. He celebrates Thanksgiving. I asked him about that, and he smiled. “I take every opportunity I can get to be grateful.”
The M.A.G.I.C. formula is to be used EVERY day. Every single day, as part of your Morning Ritual. It is a lifesaver, because ANY major goal will force you through the “Dark Night of the Soul” to get to the next level. This is where the weak and frightened turn back. And by turning back, they get caught in an endless pain loop, as I was for almost 17 years in pursuing my first black belt.
Believe me: you do NOT want to go through that. Ugh.
If you have a “zero” in any category: Action, Gratitude, Intention, or Commitment, you will zero out overall.
Remember the proper syntax or action:
- Define your ultimate results/ultimate purpose. Your WHAT
- Clarify WHY you want it. When you look at this list of reasons, you should feel TURNED ON!
- NOW ask “HOW” you will do it today, this week. This is the only time to look at “to do”
Any goals you’ve ever had that you gave up on, you didn’t have enough reasons to keep going. Now, if you discovered that NO ONE has ever accomplished what you are attempting, or people who have actually accomplished it agree that your cause is hopeless, then maybe it is appropriate to quit.
But frankly…if you had enough reasons, even THAT wouldn’t stop you. I admit that you don’t want to be insane about this, but a little insanity can be a useful thing. In fact, if some of the voices in your head aren’t questioning your sanity, your goals may not be high enough.
The notion of aiming “too high” might well trigger fear. And the antidote for fear is gratitude. Thanksgiving.
I think my friend (a man of high and varied accomplishment) is a smart cookie. He takes EVERY opportunity to be happy. What a contrast with some folks, who seem to take every opportunity to be UNHAPPY. If there is an endangered sea-slug in the Marianas trench, they are miserable. If a scandal touches someone they’ve never met, whose life influences them not at all, they are unhappy. If someone looks at them wrong, criticizes them or doesn’t support their world view, they are angry.
The Morning Ritual and Seven Day Emotional Diet create “pattern interrupts” in this misery parade. Multiple times per day, you check in and DELIBERATELY make yourself happy by shifting your movement, your focus, and your spoken words.
Holidays are cultural pattern interrupts. Times to be happy, grateful, loving, kind. For a few days a year, the average person smiles more, is more polite, and remembers the good times, even if those memories are bittersweet.
We need these breaks. There are ALWAYS things to be unhappy about. And always things to be happy about. While it is foolish to pretend there are not weeds in your garden, it is tragic not to keep 80% of your attention on the roses.
Today, pluck a rose. And share it.