Romeo and Juliet’s Journey #8: The Leap of Faith
“Come, bitter conduct, come, unsavoury guide!
Thou desperate pilot, now at once run on
The dashing rocks thy seasick weary bark!
Here’s to my love! Drinking. O true apothecary,
Thy drugs are quick. Thus with a kiss I die.“
And with those words, Romeo commits suicide.
And here comes the moment which, if these lovers had not been children, tragedy could have been averted. Romeo found Juliet apparently dead, and at that moment, the pain of living without her exceeded the fear of death, and he chose death. She awakened and found Romeo dead, and her pain of living without him made HER choose death.
If Romeo had possessed the wisdom to know that his broken hearts would heal, he might have taken a different action. Then Juliet would have awakened, and they live happily ever after.
His problem was a lack of faith. IN this context, faith is a deep conviction in one of three things:
- Faith in himself (that would be able to heal and love again)
- Faith in his companions (perhaps that there would be another woman he would one day meet as fair and perfect as Juliet
- Faith in a higher power (perhaps that God would not make only one perfect partner for us)
Any of these would have saved the story from utter tragedy. Probably made a lesser tale, however.
Romeo and Juliet FAIL their “leap of faith.” Too much pain, too narrow a view of life and love.
My first marriage had died, and it absolutely tore my guts out. I felt as if I had totally failed as a human being, that no one would ever love me again. I just wanted to work my way back into the dating market, find happiness–but the problem was that I had no “game
I discovered that I had no “game”. I’d never picked up a woman in my life, and my efforts to make connection with the ones I knew just seemed to end up with one disaster after another.
The breakthrough came when I realized a simple reality: you can create a relationship with someone on your “frequency”, at your level of integration and evolution. NOT someone below or above that level. I was attracted to confident, beautiful women…but I was not confident or balanced myself. A lioness wants a lion. My very need for love was crippling me.
I remember laying in my bed in my solidary room, thinking through all the pieces of the puzzle. To create a relationship with a powerful woman, I had to be a powerful man, and not be “bleeding” emotionally all over the table. I couldn’t the love I craved unless I didn’t NEED that love from another human being. I could WANT it, sure. But if I NEEDED it…I was screwed.
What could I do? I couldn’t get it if I needed it. And I’d need it until I got it…
Wouldn’t I? And I remembered the words of Ram Dass: “All that you seek is already within you. In Hinduism it is called the Atman, in Buddhism the pure Buddha-Mind. Christ said, ‘the kingdom of heaven is within you.’ Quakers call it the ‘still small voice within.’ This is the space of full awareness that is in harmony with all the universe, and thus is wisdom itself.”
The love I sought was within me. I remembered a very special visualization/meditation designed to heal and evolve the heart, and began to apply it to my own life.
And in a few weeks, things began to change. It was rough at first, I’ll admit. My head was filled with doubting voices, and at times I felt silly. But I kept the FAITH, and soon I was HAPPY. Happier than I had been in years. I no longer chased after women: but had a sort of detached curiosity and interest, combined with an affectionate respect. Saw them as complete human beings who might be very interesting to know better, but were complete in themselves. And to my astonishment, removed from any sense of lack, I became UNCANNILY attractive to women, getting the reaction I’d always desired. And that lead directly to meeting the woman of my dreams.
That “missing link” of self-love, self-respect, healing, I continued to refine over the years, finally teaching it at a high-end stress clinic in Santa Monica to millionaires and movie stars. And called it The Ancient Child.
As a means of connecting to the love within you, it has no equal. And if you have ALL the love you “need”, flowing from within you, you have the freedom to have “choice” in what you want, what you DESIRE, from outside you. You are free, and confident, and self-contained.
Most of the “Pick Up Artist” or “Get A Man” courses are about FAKING this state of health and happiness. FAKING genuine confidence and balance. But…why not actually BE healthy?
If only Romeo and Juliet had been better balanced, healthier, wiser people…we’d have been denied one of the great literary works of the Western World. But…your life is not an amusement for the crowd. It is YOUR LIFE, and you have the right to be happy. Moreover, every person who seeks and finds happiness helps others see the possibility. Your fire lights the way for the rest of the world.
Have FAITH that within yourself you have the strength and love you’ve sought from others.
Have FAITH that there are others who are looking for someone just like the healed human being you have the potential to be
Have FAITH that the world is not so cruel that there is only one human being out of billions who could share your path.
Love yourself…and share the love!
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