On one thread, the discussion swung around to those who feel that most human beings are stupid and venal. The following conversation ensued:
I said: “Just on general principle, I automatically assume that people who look down on the mass of humanity are really telling us their negative feelings about themselves.”
“Z”, the lady hosting the thread, replied: “I was trying to avoid that. I have an awful lot of negative feelings about myself, and yet on the whole I look on humanity as mostly on a level with me, and I look up to quite a lot of it.”
S: “I hope that you heal that wound in your heart and learn to love yourself completely. You deserve it, and the world looks much different from that place.”
Another reader, “P”, added: “A World”, living in chaos, fear and subterfuge… Steve… It’s DIFFICULT… To: “Engage in… the ‘healing practice’… of: THE SELF! (Or, “others”)… At: The Moment”!!!
Let me unpack this, please.
The world is always chaotic, and it always has order. Our emotions are controlled by the way we use our bodies, the language we use, and what we focus on. We have problems, and what solves problems is effective thought and action. Negative emotions lead to negative or ineffective action. So…the first step is to generate the positive emotions which break tunnel vision, leading to the ability to brainstorm solutions, and take actions. Taking actions gives you the feedback to understand the situation better, and therefore take more effective actions, like a bat sending out squeaks in the dark.
WHAT you want is the outcome, the goal.
WHY you want it is the path to generating the emotions that can drive the HOW to achieve it.
First WHAT. Then WHY. Then and only then HOW.
See problems in the world? Want to make a difference? Great! Understand how much human misery is created by fear. How much violence and pain. Want to make a difference THERE? Then show by example that problems are compulsory, but misery is optional. LEAD BY EXAMPLE.
The WHAT might be to make a better world for all our children, and ourselves.
WHY? Because the meaning of life is to seek joy. Avoiding pain is just the first and most animal part of the equation. Joy, peace, contribution, creativity, service, self-expression, passion freedom…whatever words you use, they are all on the road moving away from the negative emotions and actions. All moving toward happiness.
HOW? Know that when you are stressed, you cannot see answers that are right in front of you, and can’t take action even if you DO see an answer. “Why bother? Nothing works. The world is falling apart” said a segment of the population as far back as conscious thought has existed. And yet we continue. YOU are not so important that the world has been waiting to fall apart until you got here.
WHAT can you do? Seriously, the “Morning Ritual” covers it beautifully. Move. Think. Feel.
The more important the issues in your life, the more critical this is, to reverse the negative spiral. If you are lying to yourself and saying “I don’t have time” then consider that you had the time to read this. YOU ARE LYING TO YOURSELF.
Ask why. DIG DEEP. Don’t stop with the surface answers. I promise it will come down to fear. Fear of caring. Fear of engaging with the world. Fear of failing…again. Fear of the other members of your tribe calling you a dreamer or delusional.
There are two core emotions that drive us every day: fear and love. Pain and pleasure. At any moment you can decide to take the path of love and joy. In a single breath you can change your destiny.
Five minutes. Got five minutes? Then five times a day, every three hours, stop and do deep, slow, diaphragmatic belly breaths for sixty seconds. Set your watch.
If you don’t..? Then why should anyone listen to you if you complain about being stressed? If you spend time on social media, but won’t take the time to take control of your mind and heart, what are you doing except spreading misery when you could have been spreading joy? Do you know how much PAIN there is in the world?
Who are you? Who are you going to be today? The answer is in every thought, every action, every breath, every shift of attention.
This could be the best week of your life. This could be the week when YOU decide to live from joy rather than fear.
How? Move. Think. Focus. Speak the truth of your soul, aloud. Yeah, there will be a voice in your head telling you it is useless.
That voice has lied to you before.
It is lying now.